Work Life Balance

Take Control of Work Life Balance

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Jack Welch, former CEO of GE once remarked “There’s no such thing as work / life balance. There are work / life choices; you make them and they have consequences”

Whatever the theory and whether you are running your own business or working for somebody else, all too often it does feel overwhelming and consuming. The push for financial success and personal sacrifice has become standard. If you are burning the candle at both ends and unhappy, what can be done?

Step 1 – Awareness
The first place to start is to recognize that you have a challenge and wish to do something about it. Awareness precedes change and is truly half the battle. Once you begin to embrace the idea that there is a better way, your mind becomes open to the possibility and opportunities will present themselves.

Step 2 – Choice
When you recognize that something needs to change you must accept that priorities need to be established, decisions need to be made and the implications of your actions understood. With each action comes a reaction and therefore establishing some boundaries to the choices you will make are important.

Step 3 – Action
It is now time to step up to the plate and do something. Action speaks louder than words and these challenges can only be met head on with taking control and committing to doing something about it.

Do any of these resonate with you? The only one that is stopping you achieving balance is you; make a choice and take control!

 

Living the Life You Want

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work lifeRecently while reading a blog by Todd Henry, I was struck by the simplicity yet difficulty associated with identifying one’s life purpose and ultimately who you are. For many who are caught in the hustle of meeting everybody else’s expectations we very often forget about our own. Henry almost chides us that if we do not accept this challenge, it eventually can lead to a very sad conclusion where we “Die Empty” which is aptly the name of his book.

This question becomes even more complex when one considers this relative to who you are, professionally and personally. In a recent HBS article by Groysberg and Abrahams, they presented an article that questioned whether work life balance was even a possibility. They went one step further and suggested that the pursuit of this balance might actually prevent people from engaging meaningfully either at work or at home. From their research, they found that only those who are more deliberate and focused make the right choices and can therefore achieve balance.

Both these findings ultimately present a challenge relative to who you are and consequently the choices you have. Here are some possible strategies to consider that might help in terms of being deliberate and focused.

  • Get Clarity around what matters most to you. Consider doing some of the exercises suggested by Todd Henry in his blog.
  • Build Important Relationships of people that you know and respect that will provide you the necessary support.
  • Make Choices based on the knowledge you have and do so with conviction and to the best of your ability.
  • Take Responsibility for You because that’s what you can control. Do what you feel is right and accept the consequences.
  • Learn from Your Actions and see the positivity in the choices you make and the additional knowledge you have acquired as a result; there is no failure.
  • Trust the Process and adapt along the way, as appropriate.

Identifying who you are is a journey not a destination. It’s an evolving self discovery process that can provide great richness in terms of the type of person you are and / or want to become.

Who are you?

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Recently while reading a blog by Todd Henry, I was struck by the simplicity yet difficulty associated with identifying one’s life purpose and ultimately who you are.  For many who are caught in the hustle of meeting everybody else’s expectations we very often forget about our own.  Henry almost chides us that if we do not accept this challenge, it eventually can lead to a very sad conclusion where we “Die Empty” which is aptly the name of his book.

This question becomes even more complex when one considers this relative to who you are, professionally and personally.  In a recent HBS article by Groysberg and Abrahams, they presented an article that questioned whether work life balance was even a possibility.  They went one step further and suggested that the pursuit of this balance might actually prevent people from engaging meaningfully either at work or at home.  From their research, they found that only those who are more deliberate and focused make the right choices and can therefore achieve balance.

Both these findings ultimately present a challenge relative to who you are and consequently the choices you have.  Here are some strategies to consider that might help in terms of being deliberate and focused.

1. Get Clarity around what matters most to you.  Consider doing some of the exercises suggested by Todd Henry in his blog in link below.

http://www.accidentalcreative.com/creating/10-questions-that-will-help-you-find-your-voice/

2. Build Important Relationships of people that you know and respect that will provide you the necessary support.

3. Make Choices based on the knowledge you have and do so with conviction and to the best of your ability.

4. Take Responsibility for You because that’s what you can control.  Do what you feel is right and accept the consequences.

5. Learn from Your Actions and see the positivity in the choices you make and the additional knowledge you have acquired as a result; there is no failure.

6. Trust the Process and adapt along the way, as appropriate.

Identifying who you are is a journey not a destination.  It’s an evolving self discovery process that can provide great richness in terms of the type of person you are and / or want to become.

Work/Life/Giving Balance

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Most of us are very consumed in our professional and personal lives and, when we consider balance, it is typically thought of relative to only these two elements.  They encompass career, workplace, money, family, health, etc; but they all involve you or people you have a vested interest in; consequently the focus is pretty internal.

balanceAll of this is because nature intended for people to live in a mutually supportive environment.  These communities are typically defined in terms of family, neighborhoods, workplace, friends, etc; all of which have some sort of common link.  At various points in time change occurs (move job or home) and old ones get dismantled and new ones get formed.  But they are always present and self serving.

But what about communities that are external to you?  What connection do you have with them and why should you even be concerned?   Giving is at the core to answering these questions.  As human beings we also have an innate obligation to serve others even when there is no financial or material reward.  This feeds the mind, heart and soul and is about doing things because its the right thing to do.  When you are involved in events that give, they are typically characterized as life changing, gratifying and yet what do you get materially?  Nothing!

In some respects this feels contradictory to the old saying, “the more you give the more you get”.  The subtle difference is however, when you give from a higher level (unconditional), you receive at that level as well (purpose).  Modern society does not place enough emphasis on the value of this both for the individual giving and receiving.  However the most successful and happy people today, not only have balance in Work and Life, but also in Giving.

Work Life Balance – Make a Choice and Take Control

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Jack Welch, former CEO of GE once remarked “There’s no such thing as work / life balance. There are work / life choices; you make them and they have consequences”

In the Spring edition of the New England Human Resource Association (NEHRA) publication contributor Dan Henry cited a Mayo Clinic research study that the causes of this “imbalance” was rooted in the following:

  • Globalization
  • International Presence
  • Advances in Technology
  • Longer Hours
  • Changes in Family Roles

Whatever the theory and whether you are running your own business or working for somebody else, all too often it does feel overwhelming and consuming. The push for financial success and personal sacrifice has become standard. For all the reason listed above its not getting any better and personal lives are suffering.

If you are burning the candle at both ends and unhappy, what can be done?

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