Public Speaking

Tips to Conquering the Fear of Public Speaking

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speakingWe have all heard the old adage that many would prefer death over speaking in public. Why is it that we naturally and instinctively can converse, yet when formalized, many of us freeze or cringe at the thought? Much has been written and businesses thrive to help address this long standing and restricting challenge. So what really works? The following generally accepted strategies are typically employed and perhaps one might be for you.

Practice
There are numerous public speaking schools which along with the likes of Toastmasters advocate readiness in terms on Preparation, Practice and Repetition. With these you build a level of confidence that minimizes the fear.

Coping
Another approach is associated with what you do immediately prior to the event. There are numerous breathing exercises or you can bounce on a yoga ball to help to relax and get you grounded. For more information visit Cheryl Dolan and check out her “Top 5 tools for Platinum Presence”.

Medication
You can also get prescribed anxiety medications that slow down the heart rate and allow you breathe in a more relaxed manner. Be sure to consult with your doctor about the appropriateness of this for you.

Rewiring
Finally, there are also approaches that focus on understanding the beliefs that are creating the fears in the first place. This can often relate to a previous experience; it happened before and therefore our wiring to the brain suggests that it will happen again. Check out the Lefkoe Institute who offers a unique coaching experience in their attempt to remedy this challenge.

For so many, life would be so much more pleasant if this could be conquered. Their voice would be heard and they would have the opportunity to make more valuable contributions. So rather than simply accept and continue to feel this huge discomfort, do something about it. Now is as good a time to start!!

Conveying a Message

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20201098_blogThe art of communication is often regarded as quite elusive and something that very few people have mastered. In fact, it is well known to inspire more fear as speaking in public is right up there with the thoughts of death. Often the question is asked whether it’s something you are born with as a natural extension of who you are or, can it be actually learned?

Within the art of conveying a message, yes it’s an art and can be learned, there are a few important elements to be aware of. The first is the pretty widely accepted Mehrabian’s 7% – 38% – 55% rule. This basically says that when you speak, your words only convey 7% of the message, while 38% is attributed to tone and 55% to body language. Often times we get so hung up on what we wish to say, we forget all about how we say it and that makes up an astounding 93%.

Therefore mastering body language becomes an opportunity, should you wish to improve the effectiveness of your message and according to Mark Bowden, in his book Winning Body Language, the positioning of your hands is key. He suggests about various positioning “Planes” which you can think of relative to the alignment of your arms / hands. By imagining you are standing in front of a group, these can be described as follows:

  • Grotesque Plane – hands straight down by your side and consequently your body somewhat slouched. This suggests insecurity, lack of confidence and perhaps not a lot of belief in the message you are conveying.
  • Truth Plane – your hands are placed at your navel with body more upright. This suggests confidence and believability in the message being conveyed.
  • Passion Plane – this is where your hands are expressive and at chest level. Assuming you have secured the integrity of the message (truth plane), this allows you to inspire people though demonstration of your passion.

Both the Truth and Passion planes require that you stand upright which also maximizes your breathing capacity, which is critical to controlling your physical and emotional state. Consequently, it is important to consider in advance what it is your wish your audience to really hear (beyond the words) and then use the appropriate body language to go along with this.

Public Speaking

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We have all heard the old adage that many would prefer death over speaking in public. Why is it that we naturally and instinctively can converse, yet when formalized, many of us freeze or cringe at the thought? Much has been written and businesses thrive to help address this long standing and restricting challenge.

So what really works? The following generally accepted strategies are typically employed and perhaps one might be for you.

Practice

There are numerous public speaking schools which along with the likes of Toastmasters advocate readiness in terms on Preparation, Practice and Repetition. With these you build a level of confidence that minimizes the fear.

Coping

Another approach is associated with what you do immediately prior to the event. There are numerous breathing exercises or you can bounce on a yoga ball to help to relax and get you grounded. For more information visit Cheryl Dolan and check out her “Top 5 tools for Platinum Presence”. Read more