Gratitude is a very interesting virtue. By demonstrating this simple act, it can very often lead to an exponentially greater response. Recently I was asked to do some research in my own time for somebody. I spent about 2 hours on the activity and e-mailed it off. I knew it was opened yet I never received any gratitude; I was upset. In another instance one of my kids asked me for some money which I eventually gave after some discussion. I transferred it electronically, told them via text I had done it and got the response “thank you Dad, you’re the best”. I could have been asked for more in that very moment and I think I would have given it; I felt really good.
Not to sound too dramatic and to give the impression that I am having some challenges with my own insecurities, it got me thinking how these two relatively simple situations affected me. Why were they so important? Gratitude can be defined as “Thankful Acknowledgment” and I believe that being acknowledged is so very powerful to the human psyche. So much so, its absence has the potential to create a relationship void that could compromise the next interaction you have with that person.
Shawn Achor in his very interesting work around happiness contends that the very act of giving is something that makes people feel good about themselves and I agree. However he also contends that the very act of expressing gratitude is just as significant to creating happiness. I believe it actually goes one step further and serves to create a positive bridge between the giver and receiver.
So with that in mind I would personally like to take an opportunity to express my gratitude to you. 10 years ago this month I launched New England Coaching and today, as you read this, I want to sincerely thank YOU! If you are reading this you must have been a client, a student, a friend, a coach, a prospect, a social media connection or a colleague and in some shape of form, you have contributed to the fact that today “I’m living the life” and couldn’t be happier.
I hope this message continues to “build our bridge” and please know how thankful I am.