Why is it that the focus of Leadership primarily revolves around the relationship a leader has with others? One forgets that this whole process very much starts with the relationship you have with yourself. If this sounds a little bizarre, let me explain.
Do people sometimes regard you as unpredictable, unapproachable (depending on the day), not very receptive to bad news, sad, perhaps not even fun to be around? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then you could be lacking in the Genos EI skill of Emotional Self Management. This skill pertains to how effectively you manage your own emotions and it manifests itself as your MOOD. The following strategies offer the opportunity of how you might cope more effectively with moods and dramatically improve your leadership style (and your overall wellbeing and happiness).
1. Thinking Strategies
How do you switch those negative thoughts into positive ones? Some examples of what people use for this might include meditation, perspective shifting, problem solving or reading / self education. These are designed to allow you to relate to worrisome issues more effectively and through a different set of lenses.
What type of physical activity can alleviate mood swings? Examples would include exercising, yoga, breathing regulation or simply a change of daily pace. That early morning run clears the head or that evening workout relieves the tension. By consciously choosing to include some exercise (ideally that your enjoy) you can contribute to your emotional wellbeing.
3. Environmental Strategies
The environment we find ourselves in creates significant associations with the mood we feel – whether at home, school, the office or any other place you might find yourself for a protracted period of time. Seek out opportunities such as improved room layout, better working hours, less of a commute or even the presence of relaxing music.
4. Relationship Strategies
How do the people you surround yourself with impact how you feel? If this is an area of concern, speak with those you trust, vent your emotions, engage a coach or surround yourself with people whom you feel comfortable with. Identify the important relationships in your life, move on from old toxic ones and replace them with energizing ones.
These all require action on your part; action that allows you to assume more control over your own destiny. Ask yourself what do you want – then do it!
Finally, if you can effectively manage your own emotions, or moods, this will enhance your ability to:
- Cope with greater and changing demands,
- Allow you to move on quickly from setbacks and
- Effectively implement strategies to maintain a positive outlook.